Wednesday, October 8, 2008

Remembering My Dad

My Dad passed away on Easter Sunday morning in 1991. He had lung cancer and died six months to the day that he found out about the cancer. That's been over 17 years ago and I still miss him. My Dad was a great man and he really loved the Lord. I can remember prior to his being saved, how he responded mostly in anger and frustration, but after Jesus came into his life, he became a very gentle man. Now my dad only had a 7th grade education, so as the world would believe, he was not a smart man at all. But what the world didn't know about my dad was he had mucho common sense. He may have had trouble doing math, but he didn't have trouble using math. He may have had trouble using proper english,but he didn't have trouble saying the right things.In fact, when I was much younger, I use to think of my dad as someone who just wasn't to smart. In fact, if I'm going to be honest, I thought my dad was dumb. But something happened the older I got, the smarted he got or at least in my mind, that's the way it was. He became one of the smartest people I knew and then he died. You see there are thiings today, I would like to ask my Dad and I don't have that opportunity to do so. There are things today, that I believe my Dad could give me good sound advice and yet I can't ask him for it. So let me say to those of you who read this blog. If you Dad is still alive, ask him all the questions you can. Get as much information from him as you can. Someday, you will be like me, you won't have that chance to ask any more. I read the following just the other day and I believe this is so very true at least it is in my life.

The Fatherhood Cycle
When I was 4 years old: "My Daddy can do anything"
When I was 7 years old: "My Dad knows a lot, a whole lot"
When I was 12 years old: "Oh well--naturally--Father doesn't know that either"
When I was 14 years old: "Father? Hopelessly old fashioned"
When I was 21 years old: "Oh that man is so out of date. What did you expect?"
When I was 25 years old: "He knows a little bit about it--but not much"
When I was 30 years old: "Maybe we ought to dind out what Dad Thinks"
When I was 35 years old: "Let's ask Dad wha the would do before we make a decision"
When I was 40 years old: "I wound what Dad would have thought about that? He was pretty smart."
When I was 50 years old: My Dad knew absolutely everything"
When I was 60 years old: I'd give anything if Dad were here so I could talk this over with him. I really miss him.

That's my feeling exactly.


BethAnne said...

Hey Daddy, "CanI have some money"?

"When you spanked us, why did you always say this is gonna hurt me more than it hurts you even though you knew that to be a lie?"

"Why did you tell me you wrote the WEbster's dictionary?"

"When I asked you what you were doing why did you always say 'feedin' Alexander'?"

"Why did you allow Lisa to feed me dog food?"

(you said ask your dad all the questions you can! - you didnt mean those kinds of questions, huh?) I will try to think of some more appropriate ones and get back to you. I think you have gotten smarter since I have gotten older too, but I dont want you to get the big head so I dont tell you that much.

In your post about Grandaddy, you didnt mention the phrase "Life gets tedious (teejus)" one time.....

Greg P. said...


Eddie I know where you're coming from. This is one of your best posts yet!

I wish I could tell my dad I loved him..... just one more time.

alliekat said...

"Why do you love me the most of all the girls?" (Now that is a question - That's an easy one!)

Could you please help Bethanne "get over" the dog food! She needs some serious counseling!

Grandaddy sure could cook! I loved that "Chokolat fug"!

Mommyluann said...

I miss my dad too. Sure would like some advice now and then.

I agree with Lisa...if we all chip in , can we get Bethanne some counseling!????

Eddie said...

That's the reason I come home about every 3 months is to provide Bethanne with one-on-one counseling.

AnnaElizabeth said...

I am very thankful for my Daddy and my Granddaddy. Both men are very intelligent and love the Lord. They both give me wisdom and encouragement when I need it most.
Thank you for being there for me, Granddaddy.

Love you!

PS- I'll be glad to give Beth a family discount on counseling when I get my degree.

Eddie said...

Sweetie Anna, you can not learn enough between now and then to be able to counsel Bethanne. She is somewhat of a hopeless case.
Love you very much. Granddaddy

BethAnne said...

I MIGHT BE HOPELESS, BUT I CAN READ YA KNOW!!!! It might be better to send these type messages in an email so the person whom you are talking about will not get a(nother)complex!!!